There’s nothing wrong with being a virgin.
After all, we’re all born that way. I know sooner or later that status changes (unless you’re a monk or something, then I guess you die a virgin), but we all start out with a level playing field, a clean slate, the same beginning. So I guess I’ve never really understood why anyone thinks it’s okay to make fun of someone for being a virgin just because they’re not (anymore, that is).
There is almost always a reason why someone hasn’t had sex for the first time yet. Maybe they have religious reasons or they simply want to save themselves for someone they know they’ll be with for the rest of their lives, or maybe they don’t care so much about losing it to someone who wants to marry them but just aren’t ready for sex in general yet. Whatever their reason, though, it’s their business, not anyone else’s. It seems kids are having sex younger and younger these days; how much you wanna bet half those young people losing their virginity didn’t really want to do it yet? The media puts such an emphasis on being sexy and having experience, making it seem “uncool” to be a virgin and be so innocent. Isn’t that what childhood is about, though? Being innocent? Trust me, if I could go back to being a carefree and innocent kid, some days I definitely would. Being an adult is cool but sometimes it sucks having so much responsibility. Because, yes, the freedom is great but it comes with a lot of responsibility (hell-OO, no one said you got to be an adult and do whatever the hell you want without paying some sort of price).
And then of course there’s the peer pressure. Whether you’re a kid or an adult who hasn’t given it up yet, there’s nothing worse than feeling pressured into doing something you’re not ready for or don’t want to do, regardless of what it is. Despite what a lot of people may say or think, it’s actually still cool to stand up for yourself and what you believe in and say no to something that everyone else might be saying yes to, even if it makes you the odd man out. There’s a quote I love by Suzy Kassem: “Stand up for what is right even if you stand alone.” That holds true especially when it comes to your own happiness and self-worth. If you do something everyone else is doing just because you think you should or don’t want to be left, you’re not standing up for yourself and what you believe in. You’re letting other people dictate how you live your life and make choices for you that you didn’t necessarily want to make. No matter what others might think, if you stay true to yourself, you can never go wrong. People are going to have issues regardless of what you do or say, so you might as well at least be happy at the end of the day. And if you’re the asshole pressuring someone to do something they don’t want to, stop and think about how you would feel if someone was trying to make you do something you didn’t want to do. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes; if you wouldn’t like it, chances are they won’t, either.
With that being said, I think now, in my “old age” I could handle a virgin. It might actually be sort of nice, knowing you’re the first person that other person wanted to be with, that they “chose” you. And who knows, maybe you’ll even get to be as special as to be their one and only, the first and last person they’re ever with. Eight years ago that would have scared the shit out of me (obviously) but now, it actually sounds almost more appealing than the alternative. You know, like being with someone who gives you Chlamydia.