Getting your heart broken sucks.
But really, it does suck. There’s nothing worse than wearing your heart on your sleeve (as cliched as that is) and giving everything you have to someone only to have them rip out your still-beating heart and stomp all over it.
Okay, now that I’m done being melodramatic, it is true that breaking up with someone you love and care about bites the big one. But going through hardships is a part of life, and in the end, it only makes us stronger as individuals (although I’m having a hard time remembering that right now).
The bright side of things is that you’re not alone. People are feeling heartache every day all over the world, but don’t forget, there is always someone there to lend their shoulder when you feel like you need to cry (and cry again and again and again). There’s always someone there to remind you how much of a schmuck that person was and how awesome you are and how you deserve so much better. But when you’re home alone at night and all you want to do is curl up into a little fetus on the floor in your closet, sometimes it’s nice to have a distraction to keep you from splattering your brains all over the wall. For me, music is my savior. It always has been and always will be. No matter what I’m feeling, whether I’m sad or lonely or cracked out on Red Bull, music is my number-one go-to to take me out of my body and away from any thoughts I might be thinking. So lately (at least in the last two hours), I’ve been drowning my sorrows with a catchy collection of songs that are enough to make you laugh, cry and jump around your room long enough to forget why you were ever upset in the first place.
In no particular order, here are 7 songs to get you over a break-up:
1. Heartbreaker – Pat Benatar. This is an oldie, but such a goodie. I love Pat, always have. Whether or not this song fits your situation exactly, it’s a pretty blunt call out to whoever it was that broke your heart (and it’s a bitchin’ good song to rock out to). If you can’t turn your mood around with some Pat Benatar, you should just stop reading right now, because this is as good as it will ever get.
2. Somebody Else’s Arms – Armor For Sleep. I love AFS. They may not be for everyone (as most of my favorite bands tend to be), but several of their songs (this one in particular) are perfect for bringing out the emo in you. You may cry afterwards and want to slit your wrists a little, but you wouldn’t be a true emo if you didn’t.
3. 50 Ways to Say Goodbye – Train. This current chart-topper has got me hooked. It’s light-hearted in a sad, sorrowful “you dumped me and I want to cry” kind of way and it makes me all warm and fuzzy inside. The video makes it about ten times better, so if you need a quick laugh, go YouTube it.
4. We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together -Taylor Swift. As much of a non-fan of T-swizzle’s as I am (does anyone actually call her that?) some of her songs (okay, most of her songs) are annoyingly catchy, and this one is currently the only one I’m singing. It makes sense, really, because it’s catchy and appropriate and a reminder that I should not give in to temptation. Must. Not. Give. In. If you haven’t heard it yet, go listen right now. And picture Jake Gyllenhaal crying the whole time it’s playing.
5. Surprise, Surprise – The Starting Line. One of their older songs, this remains one of my favorites to this day. It’s especially useful in this sort of situation, serving as one of those “you cheated so go to hell” kind of songs that’s jam-packed with angry guitar riffs, loud, up-beat rhythm and lyrics spewing with venom and hate. Not as angry as it sounds, I promise.
6. I’m Not Okay (I Promise) – My Chemical Romance. The title says it all. Not to mention MyChem is notorious for being loud and in-your-face, especially when it comes to all things dark and haunting. Now if only Gerard Way would kiss and make up with Bert McCracken. Which brings me to…
7. Buried Myself Alive – The Used. I remember almost walking into Bert McCracken 10 years ago on the sidewalk outside an Asbury Park Warped Tour, and I think I’ve been obsessed with him ever since. Despite his habitual drug use, he and his mates have always been favorites of mine on the music scene, and this song definitely brings it home for me. After all, “if you want me back, you’re gonna have to ask nicer than that…”
If all else fails and my playlist makes you more blue than you were before, go find the most depressing movie on TV, buy the biggest tub of ice cream you can find and bawl your eyes out until they swell up and you can’t see anymore. At least that way you won’t have to see your ex happy with someone else.